I'm joining Emily P. Freeman to share the things I've been learning lately.
1) I need to be more willing to admit when I need help.
I'm independent to a fault, and I hate to feel like I'm "bothering" people, but I certainly have my limits. And things run much more smoothly when I ask for help before I crash and burn on my own. Case and point: working on my book in all the ways. Every time I had spent too long staring at the words on the page, trying to make decisions about the title, subtitle, chapter order, word choice, and the like, my tendency was to just dig deeper and try to work it out myself. But when I reached out to my community for help, they made the process so much easier! (Thanks to everyone who helped me make decisions!)
2) I have more time than I think.
I use the excuse "I don't have time for that" more often than I would like to admit. While it's true that I don't have time or energy to do everything presented to me, I can make room for the things that are really important to me. For instance, in the midst of book editing and all the frantic running around and mental fatigue that accompanies that, I was asked to be a guest on my friends' podcast. I was incredibly honored to be asked, and I adore those friends, so I said "yes," knowing that I would have to carve out time for it. I also took a break from book writing and editing to go on a road trip with my closest friends, even though the timing wasn't necessarily perfect. The trip proved to be just what I needed, a welcome mental break and time spent away from my work. I still had time to get all of my work done when I got home and keep up with my deadlines. It's all about choosing to make time for what matters and do what it takes to make it happen, and letting go of what doesn't make the cut without any guilt.
3) People matter more than things.
(Insert "duh" moment) I know, I know. It's obvious that people matter more than things. But I don't mean "things" in terms of physical possessions, as if I like my computer or favorite jeans more than my friends. I mean "things" mostly in terms of my personal routines, goals, and schedules. I'm definitely a creature of habit. There are things I like to do my myself, and interruptions often rub me the wrong way. If I'm in the middle of a task, having someone strike up a conversation near me or with me isn't always something I'm crazy about (okay, that's an understatement-- I just might kind of resent it sometimes, because it's inhibiting my ability to do whatever I was busy doing in my own little world). But I'm slowly learning there are better things to be found in taking breaks to engage with the people and the world around me instead of burrowing deeper into my own little world and trying to tune them out.
4) Technology is hard.
I'm not sure I ever thought I was great at it, but I've been learning (or re-learning) lately that it's not my forte. Between updating things around here for the blog, formatting my book, working on promoting the book, and figuring out all the nitty-gritty details involved in launching it on Amazon, I had to rely on several instructional PDFs and videos, and still wanted to give up a handful of times. It makes me grateful for everyone who is good at it!
5) Getting outside for some fresh air makes me feel better about life when it gets a little too crazy.
Whether it's for a run, a lunchtime walk, tidying up my patio garden, or enjoying a meal with friends on a rooftop, getting outside helps me gain perspective and take a little break. It's much easier now that the weather is nicer around here, but I hope to keep it up even when it starts getting cold again.
6) Bullet journals are a great invention.
Seriously, why did it take me so long to jump on that bandwagon?! I like writing, I need organization to survive, and I already carry notes around with me to remember all the things. Thanks to whoever came up with the idea in the first place!
What have you been learning lately? I'd love to hear from you in the comments!